Hey I was wondering if you could give me some advice? I think I might be bi but I'm really not even sure. i'm a girl and i guess ive always thought of myself as straight but over the past few months I've had really strong feelings towards one of my friends that is also a girl. But maybe we're just good friends? But idk I just always want to be with her and I get excited when she texts me and I've just generally been thinking about girls in a more sexual way. What do you think all this means?
Hey there! First of all, I wouldn’t worry too much about the label. What you call yourself doesn’t really matter at this point. Labels provide visibility and community for people but they don’t define you. I generally think that people know their feelings pretty well, even if they’re hard to admit. So, if you think you have sexual or romantic feelings for this friend, you are probably right. Whether this makes you bi or gay or anything else (pan, bi-curious etc.) doesn’t really matter. Just be confident in yourself. As for having feelings for a friend… if you know without a doubt that she’s straight, then try your best to get over her because that shit can be painful! Talking to her about your feelings might help you move past them- but only if you think she’ll be understanding. Anyway, good luck and remember, sexuality can be fluid. Just go with the flow :)